Home owning and long distance dating

Well, I am officially a homeowner. ARGH!!!! Very scary I must say. Closing was relatively easy; all I had to do was sign my life away. A 30- year mortgage, very scary thought.

Ok, what is the point of me talking to someone in South Africa? I have no desire to live there, ever! I would love to live in a different country, but SA is at the very bottom of the list after Cambodia. I spoke to this guy from SA and well, how unexciting. He is perfectly nice and normal, and I am board senseless. Another thing is, what is the point of courtship over the phone? I am a visual person, I need to see the person, look at their reaction to things…. I cannot keep doing these phone calls…it is unfair to him right?